How to Talk About Money (Rates, Paying & Etiquette)

Q: How to Talk About Money Without Awkwardness

Be direct, not graphic: Use “time & companionship.” Avoid explicit language. Confirm in one message: City, date, time, duration, and any accessibility/logistics requests. No haggling: If the rate isn’t a fit, politely decline. Don’t negotiate down. Respect screening: It’s normal. Provide what’s requested or decline politely.

Updated: September 2025 · Non-explicit guidance. Follow local laws and venue rules. 18+.

Money talk should be easy and respectful. Here’s how to ask about rates, pay the right way, and avoid awkward moments—whether you’re seeing an independent companion, booking through an agency, or purchasing time in a gentlemen’s club.

Before You Ask: Do 3 Quick Checks

Read the site/profile first: Many publish a rate page. If it’s clear, you don’t need to ask “How much?”.
Decide basics: City, preferred date, start time, and duration (e.g., 2 hours or dinner + 3 hours).
Have ID/screening ready: Some ask for references or a light ID check. It’s about safety and discretion.

How to Ask About Rates (Scripts)

Independent (no rate listed):
“Hello [Name], I’m in [City] on [Date]. I’d like a respectful, non-explicit dinner + 3 hours. Could you share your time & companionship rate and deposit details?”
Independent (rate listed):
“Hello [Name], I’ve read your rate page. I’m looking at [Duration] on [Date] around [Time]. What screening do you prefer and how would you like the deposit handled?”
Agency:
“Hello [Agency], I’m considering [Model] for [Duration] on [Date/Time]. Please confirm the rate, deposit, and payment method.”

Deposits & Cancellations (What to Expect)

Deposit: 25–50% is common to secure a booking. It protects both sides.
Reschedule: Many allow one reschedule with 48h+ notice (subject to availability).
Late cancellations: Deposit is usually forfeited—plan carefully.

How to Pay (Independent vs. Agency vs. Club)

Independent Companions

Balance timing: Settled at the start of the booking unless stated otherwise.
Methods: Cash, bank transfer, or on-chain (USDT/USDC) if offered. Ask which network and who covers fees.
Envelope etiquette: If paying cash, a discreet envelope at the beginning is polite.

Agencies

Payment flow: Often handled by a booker (card/transfer) with a separate gratuity later if appropriate.
Confirm totals: Ask if taxes/fees are included and how tips are handled.

Gentlemen’s Clubs (Private Rooms)

Two parts: A room fee and an entertainer’s fee; they may be separate.
Timer clarity: Time usually starts when you enter the room. Ask how extensions work.
Tipping: 15–25% of the room fee is common for good service, more for exceptional experiences.

Public Social Date (Restaurant/Bar)

Venue bill: You cover dining/drinks as host unless agreed otherwise. This is separate from time & companionship.
Discretion: Keep the booking conversation brief in public; finalize details beforehand.
Timing: Respect the clock—arrive on time and ask before extending.

How to Talk About Money Without Awkwardness

Be direct, not graphic: Use “time & companionship.” Avoid explicit language.
Confirm in one message: City, date, time, duration, and any accessibility/logistics requests.
No haggling: If the rate isn’t a fit, politely decline. Don’t negotiate down.
Respect screening: It’s normal. Provide what’s requested or decline politely.

Example Messages (Copy & Send)

Confirming details: “To confirm: [City], [Date], [Time Start], [Duration]. Deposit of [€X/%] via [Method]. Balance at start. Is that correct?”
Extension: “I’m enjoying our time—could we extend 30 minutes? I’m happy to settle now.”
Graceful exit: “Thank you for the evening—I’ll head off now. I appreciate your time.”

Crypto Payments (If Offered)

Ask which network/token (e.g., USDC on Polygon, USDT on TRON).
Confirm the exact amount and any fee coverage.
Send and share the tx hash; wait for confirmation before considering the booking set.

Tip: Use a reputable wallet and double-check addresses. On-chain payments are not easily reversible.