Travel adds moving parts. We keep it simple: clear criteria, thoughtful communication, and respect for boundaries and local law. This guide shows you how to choose the right companion for your trip—without stress or guesswork.
Our travel checklist
- Research: Shortlist via reputable directories or forums; scan reviews over time, not just recent spikes.
- Message well: Introduce yourself, share dates/duration, and have screening info ready. Keep it polite and concise.
- Align expectations: Confirm location, timing, wardrobe vibe, and any public appearances—always within agreed boundaries.
- Logistics: Choose companion-friendly lodging; plan arrivals; keep discretion in all communications.
- Aftercare: Send a simple thank-you, note learnings for next time, and respect privacy.
Adults only. Follow local laws and venue policies wherever you travel.
What “right for you” really means
- Vibe & setting fit: dinner conversationalist, gallery/date night, or low-key lounge? Choose profiles that show your setting.
- Practical match: languages, punctuality, travel readiness, reply window, wardrobe style.
- Policy fit: clear rates, deposits, screening you’re comfortable completing, and a booking flow you can follow.
Our travel checklist (expanded)
1) Research — shortlist with confidence
- Reputable sources: Use known directories or magazines; prioritize profiles with consistent activity over time (not just a recent spike).
- Proof signals: steady posting, verified reviews (where lawful), neutral professional language, clear photos (non-explicit), and a rate/policy page.
- Cross-check: Same name/handle across platforms? Similar tone and images? Consistency builds trust.
2) Message well — polite, concise, complete
Three to six lines is perfect. Share logistics up front and offer screening.
Copy/paste:
“Hello [Name/Agency], I’ll be in [City] on [Dates]. I’d like a respectful, non-explicit [Duration: 2h / dinner+3h / etc.]. Happy to complete screening and a deposit. Preferred time window is [Time(s)]. Thank you.”
3) Align expectations — confirm the details in writing
- Location: hotel or public dinner first? Share access details you’re comfortable with (lobby meet, room text on arrival).
- Timing: start time, duration, and end time. If flights may delay you, say so now.
- Wardrobe vibe: “smart-casual dinner” / “gallery evening” / “hotel lounge”—keep requests tasteful.
- Public appearances: Agree beforehand (photos/recordings are not appropriate).
- Boundaries language: use “time & companionship”; avoid explicit wording.
4) Logistics — make the day smooth
- Companion-friendly lodging: Choose hotels with straightforward guest access; avoid surprise ID checks if that worries you.
- Payments: Confirm deposit method, balance timing, and—if on-chain is offered—token/network (e.g., USDC on Polygon). Bring a discreet envelope if paying cash.
- Connectivity: Sort roaming/eSIM and preferred app (email/Telegram/WhatsApp). Phones on silent in public spaces.
- Arrivals: Build in buffer time from airport to venue; text on arrival rather than calling repeatedly.
5) Aftercare — close well and respect privacy
- Thank-you: Send a brief note the same day.
- Rebook window: Offer a future date range if you’d like to meet again.
- Privacy: Don’t post identifiable details; keep messages discreet and neutral.
Independent vs. Agency vs. Club vs. FMTY (quick compare)
| Type | Booking Flow | Payment | Good for |
|---|---|---|---|
| Independent | Direct messages, screening, deposit, balance at start. | Cash/bank; sometimes crypto if offered. | Personalized dinners, museum nights, relaxed pace. |
| Agency | Booker handles options, screening, confirmation. | Card/transfer via agency; gratuity separate. | Structured schedules, quick confirmations. |
| Club (private room) | Host + wristband/timer; room blocks. | Room fee + entertainer fee; tip separately. | Short, on-the-day plans; venue-led format. |
| FMTY | Advance planning, travel logistics, firm policies. | Higher deposits; travel costs; clear itinerary. | Weekends/overnights with experienced travelers. |
Screening & privacy (for travelers)
- Be ready with options: recent references or professional presence (site/LinkedIn). Keep it concise.
- Minimal sharing: Provide only what’s requested. Expect privacy-first language from reputable providers.
- Hotel coordination: Share arrival timing and room instructions shortly before the meeting—no long back-and-forth in public.
Budget snapshot (example only)
| Item | Example |
|---|---|
| Dinner + 3h | €1,200–€1,600 |
| Deposit (applied) | 25–50% |
| Public venue spend | €80–€200 |
| Transport / parking | €10–€40 |
| Tip (context-dependent) | 10–20% (independent) / 15–25% (club rooms) |
Numbers vary by city/date. Confirm rates and policies in advance.
Smart message templates (copy & send)
Initial inquiry (travel)
“Hello [Name/Agency], I’ll be in [City] [Dates]. I’d enjoy a non-explicit [Duration]—ideally a smart-casual dinner then hotel lounge. Happy to complete screening and a deposit. Preferred time window [Time(s)]. Thank you.”
Confirmation
“Confirming [Date] [Time] for [Duration]. Deposit [€X/% via Method] sent [screenshot/tx hash]. Venue [Hotel/Lobby/Restaurant]. I’ll message on arrival for details.”
Running late (flight delay)
“My flight is delayed [X] minutes—apologies. ETA [New Time]. If an adjustment or shorter duration is better, I’m happy to align.”
Thank-you
“Thank you for tonight—polished, relaxed, and well organized. If your schedule allows, I’d love another [Duration] on [Date window].”
Red flags (step away politely)
- No clear rates/policies or refusal to outline deposit/cancellation terms.
- Pressure for explicit discussion or disallowed extras.
- Unusual payment methods without confirmation or receipt.
- Inconsistent names/handles across platforms.
Exit line: “Thank you for your time—this won’t be the right fit for me.”
Legal & venue reminders
- Follow the law in the country/city you’re visiting.
- Respect venue policies (hotel, restaurant, club).
- Use neutral language (“time & companionship”); avoid explicit content.
Pocket checklist (print/save)
- ✔ Shortlist via reputable sources; look at activity over time
- ✔ Send a concise intro (city/date/time/duration + screening)
- ✔ Confirm location, timing, wardrobe vibe, public appearance policy
- ✔ Choose companion-friendly lodging; plan arrivals; confirm payment
- ✔ Aftercare: thank-you, notes for next time, privacy respected
Related reads: First-Time Booking: Step-by-Step · How to Talk About Money (Clients) · Private Room Flow (Clubs)
